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Battle of The Sexes
How sun signs differ by gender
Oh, what a difference a chromosome can make! We all know that people, regardless of gender, are likely to bear some (or all!) of the most common traits associated with their sun sign. However, in the realm of astrological love and compatibility, we tend to believe that certain sign combinations hold more promise than others.
For the most part, this is true. But, did you know that the astrological traits are affected by gender? Astrologically speaking, from attraction and interaction to reaction, men and women are as different as their anatomy.
Now let's take a look at the differences between men and women by sign - when it comes to attracting and interacting in love. Check out each zodiac sign's best and worst sides in love!
Aries
The Aries Female is an energetic, flirtatious force of nature who wants to be swept off her feet and cherished, but will step on your toes the minute she feels she is being smothered. She is most attracted to good looking, successful lovers who are capable of boosting her not-insignificant self-esteem. If you can't keep up (or lose!) her interest, she will quickly leave you behind in a cloud of dust, having traded you in for a pricier, showier model. If you have won the heart of an Aries woman, be prepared that she can be jealous, competitive, and downright cruel! On the flip side, she is capable of complete loyalty and will demand that you give her the same.
The Aries Male is a dynamic go-getter who wants to be overwhelmed by passion and emotion, and cannot stand for things to become complacent or routine. He likes his partners to be powerful and motivated, beautiful, and the sexual equivalent of a tornado. His hair-triggered anger and self-righteous attitude can take some getting used to, but he does cool down as quickly as he heats up. Boredom is the quickest way to make him stray, but that is only if you've proven exciting enough to get a commitment out of him in the first place.
Taurus
The Taurus Female is as strong of heart as she is of mind. She tends to hide her own vulnerabilities, usually by immersing herself more deeply into nurturing those she loves. She is drawn to partners who are her equal (or better!) on the material plane - ones that offer up some type of guarantee for the future, like a wedding ring. She most likely will appear prim-and-proper out in public, but can be quite the wild child behind closed doors. She is as stubborn as she is loving, and finds it easy to get stuck in her ways. The concept of give-and-take sometimes passes her by, and she can be possessive to the point of oppression.
The Taurus Male is a mountain of integrity and strength, loyal and loving. He has a habit of seeing things as either black or white, so while he may be discussing, you may be arguing in an attempt to get him to change his views. He expects the same level of loyalty that he gives, and will toss a flirty lover to the curb for flirting with anyone other than him - his piles of erotica don't count as an indiscretion from his viewpoint. Anything he may be lacking in an adventuresome spirit sexually, is made up for by his sexual appetite.
Gemini
The Gemini Woman is witty, charming, intelligent, and almost always at least ten minutes late. She is more attracted to a high IQ than any physical trait. She enjoys candlelight, but romance can bloom in broad daylight if the conversation is scintillating enough. This is not a woman adept at expressing her innermost feelings, and is likely to crack a joke until the serious moment passes. She wants security and stability in love, and a lover who is actually going to understand her, or at least treat her warmly when they don't.
The Gemini Male is an introverted extravert. Charisma, humor, and intellect may be the image he projects, but no matter how close you get - you can never be quite certain what is on his mind. He wants a partner who shows just enough emotion to validate that he is awesome, but not too much emotion that it will become complicated. He is seriously committed to remaining uncommitted, unless he stumbles across a super-achiever who can keep up with the conversation, reach their own goals without his assistance, and be packed and ready to go on an adventure at the drop of a dime. That, in his mind, is an amore worth considering.
Cancer
The Cancer Female is an alluring beauty, whose gentleness and caring nature tends to be welcomed in any crowd. She believes that love is the secret to life, and the more dreamy and romantic, the better. Sentimentality is a way of life. She is demure and erotic, and wants a lover who will commit, commit, commit! Her moods swings can be quite the challenge, and she can throw an Oscar-worthy tantrum when she doesn't get her way. When this feminine seductress snares her partner, her attention and affection makes them want to stay.
The Cancer Male is a romantic's dream, who plays the part of courtier well. He is honest and devoted, and when his heart melts, his every breath is drawn in to be with the one that he loves. He is very protective and can be equally as possessive, often becoming jealous of time spent with friends, relatives, or even the family dog. He wants a partner who swoons at the sight of him, is part mind-reader, (his lover is supposed to intuitively know why he is sulking) and who will find joy simply in being the center of his world.
Leo
The Leo Woman tends to be successful, self-assured, and at times more than a little flamboyant - but no more so than a queen has a right to be. She is attracted to attractive, adventurous lovers who will share the stage with her - as long as they don't try and steal the spotlight! Her sexual prowess can keep you smiling with her adventuresome spirit, but please don't ask her to get kinky. She will not live with tyranny - even though she is as likely as any man to flawlessly play the role of the tyrant. Leo women know that they deserve the best of everything, and aren't afraid to sample many kinds of varieties when on the prowl for true love.
The Leo Male is strong and affectionate, with a magnetic personality filled with fun and good cheer. He tends to be very generous, and successful enough to recover from his sprees without skipping a beat. He is attracted to beauty in all forms of lovers, specifically the ones who are adept at adoring him. In bed, the King of Beasts will live up to the title, but before you're done purring, he's probably raiding the fridge or making a sandwich. This man will give away his heart fully and with great ease, but from time to time he is likely to forget with whom he left it!
Virgo
The Virgo Female really is filled with purity and virtue, but also knows how to cut loose and have a good time - when she's not over-analyzing the smallest aspects of life. This lady is always in control - at least of herself. In her world, there is a time, place, and order to everything - and her love and trust must be earned or won. She is most attracted to neat and tidy lovers whose philosophical intellect can challenge her own. She is cautious with her emotions, but when she chooses to release her passion, she removes the virginal misconception with the subtlety of a raging forest fire. This is a supersensitive woman with many facets of character, who constantly strives for perfection in herself, life and love.
The Virgo Male is the industrious sort who finds work to be oddly exciting. He's the one who is just as likely to softly grin caressing the finish of his new file cabinet the way others would the curve of a lover's hip. Always searching for ways to improve things, he tends to be attracted to people who need his help or guidance in some way, but they must also be intelligent and competent in their own right. He tends to look at love with the same zest and vigor as any other work to be done. In other words, love is meant to be shaped into perfect harmony (well, almost perfect!). He is selfish and selfless, and can freeze an active volcano or melt the polar ice caps, depending on the day. But with a partner who loves him compassionately, his devotion grows every day.
Libra
The Libra Female is warm and womanly... artistic and elegant. She can come home from work and whip out an intimate dinner for 20 that rivals any gala. She can find something attractive in every person, place, or thing - and still believes that Prince Charming will come riding into her life on a snow-white steed. Until they show up, any lover who shows interest and has even a liberal understanding of romance is definitely worth consideration, especially if they are packaged into a hot body. A good woman, she tries to anticipate her lover's needs, sometimes forgetting that air and personal space are amongst them. The greatest challenge for the Libra Female is realizing that a clinging vine tends to strangle, but when she's content with herself alone in life, she is the most desirable flower.
The Libra Male is the life of the party, the kind of guy you just want to be around. Strong of mind, body, character and success, he tends to have a playboy past and is likely to throw over the latest bubble-headed beauty for a quiet, loyal, sweetheart who may turn a few less heads (but can intellectually hold their ground). For all that he is, and all that he has achieved, he tends to have abandonment issues that can run fairly deep. His deepest desire is to complete himself with the one he loves, and if it takes a hundred tries before they get it right - he'll just keep on trying!
Scorpio
The Scorpio Female is an unwinding mystery, sometimes even to herself. She is strong yet soft, kind, compassionate, intuitive, alluring and shy. She can rise to any challenge, claim victory without rubbing it in, and love so deeply that it scares herself. Sexually, there are no boundaries, no limits to the games she'll play (sex is power!) but she's very selective with the few that can experience her feminine wiles. She is attracted to a partner who is intelligent as well as wise, attractive and enigmatic. While the Scorpio female can be quite possessive, she prefers that her freedoms be unrestrained. The person who falls for Ms. Scorpio's embrace will never be the same. Once you know the rules, you understand it is her game.
The Scorpio Male tends to be physically alluring and intellectually frustrating. He always knows the answer before he asks the question, he just wants to see how you'll respond. His sexuality can excite the coldest, stillest waters of any pond, and yet sex is not the mission with the ones with whom he shares his charm. He is attracted to partners who are independent but loyal, intelligent, but not too inquisitive. Even the most committed Scorpio man has a way of making a lover wonder. He is pride and mystery, and if he doesn't choose to drive you mad with silence and intrigue, he is likely to sweep you just far enough off your feet that you'll be holding on for life - even after he's long gone.
Sagittarius
The Sagittarius Female can light up a room, simply by stepping in to it. Charming, witty, outgoing, and hilariously fun, this woman may not be sure in what direction her life is going, but she will make the most of scenery along the way! She is independent and impulsive, and her idea of romance is a week-long adventure - but you can bring champagne and roses if you want to. She is attracted to active, intelligent, and optimistic lovers who thrive as much as she does venturing into the unknown. She can make an insult sound like a compliment, and to her, "apology" is some foreign and undiscovered word. You may not know where the Sagittarius female is going, but fun and chaos will mark where she's been.
The Sagittarius Male is charming enough to teach a snake to samba, and equally as intriguing to be around. He is upbeat and ingenious, and some may say even a bit unorthodox, but definitely someone you like to be around. Lovers tend to overwhelm him, (they don't understand that a commitment has a lifespan of about two weeks) but he'll happily thrill you with humor and romance as long as it's still a chase. The person he catches tends to quickly be re-released into the dating wild. The Sagittarius man is like an over-grown boy, who will claim to be invincible, right up until he's put in his grave.
Capricorn
The Capricorn Female is an energetic workaholic who is always on the move. This accomplished femme fatale is one of the most kind-hearted, loyal, and caring pessimists that you could ever meet. Her sense of self-worth is what makes her strive tirelessly for success, but it also is what allows her to fall for some pretty superficial romantic situations. While she wants a self-sufficient, warm and caring partner - she often falls prey to false hopes and promises formed by attractive lips. She is a sensitive creature whose feelings can easily be hurt, but has a problem recognizing that her own finesse is often delivered with the gentleness of a 10 pound sledgehammer at full swing. Logic, emotion, and drama rule and fuel her world, but being on her "good side" is a very good place to be, because while she will forgive - she is less likely to let you forget.
The Capricorn Male exudes strength and endurance, professionally as well as in the bedroom. He tends to be quite accomplished, and looks for attractive partners who can hold a conversation but pale in comparison with his own intelligence. With an agreeable lover, he can spend less energy controlling and manipulating, which frees his time to shower them with the finer things in life, because they have met his expectations and deserve to be pampered and rewarded.
Aquarius
The Aquarius Female is a dreamy, analytical, friendly person, who either enchants or scares those she meets. At work or play, there is a calm intensity about her that can endear or overwhelm, but never fails to make an impression. She is most attracted to lovers of a like-mind, those who value honesty, humanity, the world, and all the life forms in it. One of the best listeners out there, Ms. Aquarius often fails to ask for what she wants or needs, because she'll just assume she won't get it. Marriage is security, and she has idealistic views of both.
The Aquarius Male has the mind of an inventor and the intellect and vocabulary of the most esteemed professor. All things new and developmental exist to be pondered and explored, his thirst and ability to absorb knowledge and theory is profound. He tends to appear serene and collected, at times eccentric or standoffish, but this is merely the wrapper for a humane and kind soul. He is most attracted to freedom loving partners who have kind hearts and empathetic souls. While life is but a playground for the Aquarius male, his loyalty and devotion to his chosen one hinges on the respect of his ideals and space - without fail.
Pisces
The Pisces Female is usually a soft-spoken, tender-hearted woman "in love with love" and romance. She has the soul and vision of an artist whose temperament is more prone to tears than tantrums. She has a vital and sensual sense of humor, and her charisma is quite beguiling. Because she believes in romantic love, she often gravitates toward the playboy, often not noticing the stability offered by a less-fairytale type of lover. She believes there is good in all, but often fails to recognize her own inner strength. The female Pisces who is begging to be rescued is the one most likely to be scraping egg off her face.
The Pisces Male has a healthy respect for life, particularly when seen through his humorous eyes. He is the modern-day mystic, sans the tranquility training. He is charming and romantic, beautifully surreal. He can be obsessive and moody one minute - at times pouring out his soul - and the next, be extremely still and private. He loves deeply, and emotionally, and can find himself easily attached - but always searching for a new level of intensity. He is most attracted to beautiful people who are strong enough to keep him in line, and smart enough to do so privately with respect and compassion. The Pisces male is notorious for wanting what he can't have and sometimes living in the melancholy memory (or bottle!) of the past he's left behind.
Oh, what a difference a chromosome can make! We all know that people, regardless of gender, are likely to bear some (or all!) of the most common traits associated with their sun sign. However, in the realm of astrological love and compatibility, we tend to believe that certain sign combinations hold more promise than others.
For the most part, this is true. But, did you know that the astrological traits are affected by gender? Astrologically speaking, from attraction and interaction to reaction, men and women are as different as their anatomy.
Now let's take a look at the differences between men and women by sign - when it comes to attracting and interacting in love. Check out each zodiac sign's best and worst sides in love!
Aries
The Aries Female is an energetic, flirtatious force of nature who wants to be swept off her feet and cherished, but will step on your toes the minute she feels she is being smothered. She is most attracted to good looking, successful lovers who are capable of boosting her not-insignificant self-esteem. If you can't keep up (or lose!) her interest, she will quickly leave you behind in a cloud of dust, having traded you in for a pricier, showier model. If you have won the heart of an Aries woman, be prepared that she can be jealous, competitive, and downright cruel! On the flip side, she is capable of complete loyalty and will demand that you give her the same.
The Aries Male is a dynamic go-getter who wants to be overwhelmed by passion and emotion, and cannot stand for things to become complacent or routine. He likes his partners to be powerful and motivated, beautiful, and the sexual equivalent of a tornado. His hair-triggered anger and self-righteous attitude can take some getting used to, but he does cool down as quickly as he heats up. Boredom is the quickest way to make him stray, but that is only if you've proven exciting enough to get a commitment out of him in the first place.
Taurus
The Taurus Female is as strong of heart as she is of mind. She tends to hide her own vulnerabilities, usually by immersing herself more deeply into nurturing those she loves. She is drawn to partners who are her equal (or better!) on the material plane - ones that offer up some type of guarantee for the future, like a wedding ring. She most likely will appear prim-and-proper out in public, but can be quite the wild child behind closed doors. She is as stubborn as she is loving, and finds it easy to get stuck in her ways. The concept of give-and-take sometimes passes her by, and she can be possessive to the point of oppression.
The Taurus Male is a mountain of integrity and strength, loyal and loving. He has a habit of seeing things as either black or white, so while he may be discussing, you may be arguing in an attempt to get him to change his views. He expects the same level of loyalty that he gives, and will toss a flirty lover to the curb for flirting with anyone other than him - his piles of erotica don't count as an indiscretion from his viewpoint. Anything he may be lacking in an adventuresome spirit sexually, is made up for by his sexual appetite.
Gemini
The Gemini Woman is witty, charming, intelligent, and almost always at least ten minutes late. She is more attracted to a high IQ than any physical trait. She enjoys candlelight, but romance can bloom in broad daylight if the conversation is scintillating enough. This is not a woman adept at expressing her innermost feelings, and is likely to crack a joke until the serious moment passes. She wants security and stability in love, and a lover who is actually going to understand her, or at least treat her warmly when they don't.
The Gemini Male is an introverted extravert. Charisma, humor, and intellect may be the image he projects, but no matter how close you get - you can never be quite certain what is on his mind. He wants a partner who shows just enough emotion to validate that he is awesome, but not too much emotion that it will become complicated. He is seriously committed to remaining uncommitted, unless he stumbles across a super-achiever who can keep up with the conversation, reach their own goals without his assistance, and be packed and ready to go on an adventure at the drop of a dime. That, in his mind, is an amore worth considering.
Cancer
The Cancer Female is an alluring beauty, whose gentleness and caring nature tends to be welcomed in any crowd. She believes that love is the secret to life, and the more dreamy and romantic, the better. Sentimentality is a way of life. She is demure and erotic, and wants a lover who will commit, commit, commit! Her moods swings can be quite the challenge, and she can throw an Oscar-worthy tantrum when she doesn't get her way. When this feminine seductress snares her partner, her attention and affection makes them want to stay.
The Cancer Male is a romantic's dream, who plays the part of courtier well. He is honest and devoted, and when his heart melts, his every breath is drawn in to be with the one that he loves. He is very protective and can be equally as possessive, often becoming jealous of time spent with friends, relatives, or even the family dog. He wants a partner who swoons at the sight of him, is part mind-reader, (his lover is supposed to intuitively know why he is sulking) and who will find joy simply in being the center of his world.
Leo
The Leo Woman tends to be successful, self-assured, and at times more than a little flamboyant - but no more so than a queen has a right to be. She is attracted to attractive, adventurous lovers who will share the stage with her - as long as they don't try and steal the spotlight! Her sexual prowess can keep you smiling with her adventuresome spirit, but please don't ask her to get kinky. She will not live with tyranny - even though she is as likely as any man to flawlessly play the role of the tyrant. Leo women know that they deserve the best of everything, and aren't afraid to sample many kinds of varieties when on the prowl for true love.
The Leo Male is strong and affectionate, with a magnetic personality filled with fun and good cheer. He tends to be very generous, and successful enough to recover from his sprees without skipping a beat. He is attracted to beauty in all forms of lovers, specifically the ones who are adept at adoring him. In bed, the King of Beasts will live up to the title, but before you're done purring, he's probably raiding the fridge or making a sandwich. This man will give away his heart fully and with great ease, but from time to time he is likely to forget with whom he left it!
Virgo
The Virgo Female really is filled with purity and virtue, but also knows how to cut loose and have a good time - when she's not over-analyzing the smallest aspects of life. This lady is always in control - at least of herself. In her world, there is a time, place, and order to everything - and her love and trust must be earned or won. She is most attracted to neat and tidy lovers whose philosophical intellect can challenge her own. She is cautious with her emotions, but when she chooses to release her passion, she removes the virginal misconception with the subtlety of a raging forest fire. This is a supersensitive woman with many facets of character, who constantly strives for perfection in herself, life and love.
The Virgo Male is the industrious sort who finds work to be oddly exciting. He's the one who is just as likely to softly grin caressing the finish of his new file cabinet the way others would the curve of a lover's hip. Always searching for ways to improve things, he tends to be attracted to people who need his help or guidance in some way, but they must also be intelligent and competent in their own right. He tends to look at love with the same zest and vigor as any other work to be done. In other words, love is meant to be shaped into perfect harmony (well, almost perfect!). He is selfish and selfless, and can freeze an active volcano or melt the polar ice caps, depending on the day. But with a partner who loves him compassionately, his devotion grows every day.
Libra
The Libra Female is warm and womanly... artistic and elegant. She can come home from work and whip out an intimate dinner for 20 that rivals any gala. She can find something attractive in every person, place, or thing - and still believes that Prince Charming will come riding into her life on a snow-white steed. Until they show up, any lover who shows interest and has even a liberal understanding of romance is definitely worth consideration, especially if they are packaged into a hot body. A good woman, she tries to anticipate her lover's needs, sometimes forgetting that air and personal space are amongst them. The greatest challenge for the Libra Female is realizing that a clinging vine tends to strangle, but when she's content with herself alone in life, she is the most desirable flower.
The Libra Male is the life of the party, the kind of guy you just want to be around. Strong of mind, body, character and success, he tends to have a playboy past and is likely to throw over the latest bubble-headed beauty for a quiet, loyal, sweetheart who may turn a few less heads (but can intellectually hold their ground). For all that he is, and all that he has achieved, he tends to have abandonment issues that can run fairly deep. His deepest desire is to complete himself with the one he loves, and if it takes a hundred tries before they get it right - he'll just keep on trying!
Scorpio
The Scorpio Female is an unwinding mystery, sometimes even to herself. She is strong yet soft, kind, compassionate, intuitive, alluring and shy. She can rise to any challenge, claim victory without rubbing it in, and love so deeply that it scares herself. Sexually, there are no boundaries, no limits to the games she'll play (sex is power!) but she's very selective with the few that can experience her feminine wiles. She is attracted to a partner who is intelligent as well as wise, attractive and enigmatic. While the Scorpio female can be quite possessive, she prefers that her freedoms be unrestrained. The person who falls for Ms. Scorpio's embrace will never be the same. Once you know the rules, you understand it is her game.
The Scorpio Male tends to be physically alluring and intellectually frustrating. He always knows the answer before he asks the question, he just wants to see how you'll respond. His sexuality can excite the coldest, stillest waters of any pond, and yet sex is not the mission with the ones with whom he shares his charm. He is attracted to partners who are independent but loyal, intelligent, but not too inquisitive. Even the most committed Scorpio man has a way of making a lover wonder. He is pride and mystery, and if he doesn't choose to drive you mad with silence and intrigue, he is likely to sweep you just far enough off your feet that you'll be holding on for life - even after he's long gone.
Sagittarius
The Sagittarius Female can light up a room, simply by stepping in to it. Charming, witty, outgoing, and hilariously fun, this woman may not be sure in what direction her life is going, but she will make the most of scenery along the way! She is independent and impulsive, and her idea of romance is a week-long adventure - but you can bring champagne and roses if you want to. She is attracted to active, intelligent, and optimistic lovers who thrive as much as she does venturing into the unknown. She can make an insult sound like a compliment, and to her, "apology" is some foreign and undiscovered word. You may not know where the Sagittarius female is going, but fun and chaos will mark where she's been.
The Sagittarius Male is charming enough to teach a snake to samba, and equally as intriguing to be around. He is upbeat and ingenious, and some may say even a bit unorthodox, but definitely someone you like to be around. Lovers tend to overwhelm him, (they don't understand that a commitment has a lifespan of about two weeks) but he'll happily thrill you with humor and romance as long as it's still a chase. The person he catches tends to quickly be re-released into the dating wild. The Sagittarius man is like an over-grown boy, who will claim to be invincible, right up until he's put in his grave.
Capricorn
The Capricorn Female is an energetic workaholic who is always on the move. This accomplished femme fatale is one of the most kind-hearted, loyal, and caring pessimists that you could ever meet. Her sense of self-worth is what makes her strive tirelessly for success, but it also is what allows her to fall for some pretty superficial romantic situations. While she wants a self-sufficient, warm and caring partner - she often falls prey to false hopes and promises formed by attractive lips. She is a sensitive creature whose feelings can easily be hurt, but has a problem recognizing that her own finesse is often delivered with the gentleness of a 10 pound sledgehammer at full swing. Logic, emotion, and drama rule and fuel her world, but being on her "good side" is a very good place to be, because while she will forgive - she is less likely to let you forget.
The Capricorn Male exudes strength and endurance, professionally as well as in the bedroom. He tends to be quite accomplished, and looks for attractive partners who can hold a conversation but pale in comparison with his own intelligence. With an agreeable lover, he can spend less energy controlling and manipulating, which frees his time to shower them with the finer things in life, because they have met his expectations and deserve to be pampered and rewarded.
Aquarius
The Aquarius Female is a dreamy, analytical, friendly person, who either enchants or scares those she meets. At work or play, there is a calm intensity about her that can endear or overwhelm, but never fails to make an impression. She is most attracted to lovers of a like-mind, those who value honesty, humanity, the world, and all the life forms in it. One of the best listeners out there, Ms. Aquarius often fails to ask for what she wants or needs, because she'll just assume she won't get it. Marriage is security, and she has idealistic views of both.
The Aquarius Male has the mind of an inventor and the intellect and vocabulary of the most esteemed professor. All things new and developmental exist to be pondered and explored, his thirst and ability to absorb knowledge and theory is profound. He tends to appear serene and collected, at times eccentric or standoffish, but this is merely the wrapper for a humane and kind soul. He is most attracted to freedom loving partners who have kind hearts and empathetic souls. While life is but a playground for the Aquarius male, his loyalty and devotion to his chosen one hinges on the respect of his ideals and space - without fail.
Pisces
The Pisces Female is usually a soft-spoken, tender-hearted woman "in love with love" and romance. She has the soul and vision of an artist whose temperament is more prone to tears than tantrums. She has a vital and sensual sense of humor, and her charisma is quite beguiling. Because she believes in romantic love, she often gravitates toward the playboy, often not noticing the stability offered by a less-fairytale type of lover. She believes there is good in all, but often fails to recognize her own inner strength. The female Pisces who is begging to be rescued is the one most likely to be scraping egg off her face.
The Pisces Male has a healthy respect for life, particularly when seen through his humorous eyes. He is the modern-day mystic, sans the tranquility training. He is charming and romantic, beautifully surreal. He can be obsessive and moody one minute - at times pouring out his soul - and the next, be extremely still and private. He loves deeply, and emotionally, and can find himself easily attached - but always searching for a new level of intensity. He is most attracted to beautiful people who are strong enough to keep him in line, and smart enough to do so privately with respect and compassion. The Pisces male is notorious for wanting what he can't have and sometimes living in the melancholy memory (or bottle!) of the past he's left behind.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Friday, May 22, 2009
Let’s Stay Together!
3-step plan for longevity
by Moira McMahon
It seems like everyone is breaking up! Move-outs, divorces, bust-ups are everywhere. But if you look past the people throwing plates across the kitchen, perhaps right next door - there are plenty of couples who are staying together for as long as they both shall live.
The thing is, longevity has a lot going for it. First, it grounds you in a world full of change. This leads to greater productivity and better overall happiness. Again and again, studies show that being in a long-term stable relationship brings joy and contentment. Many believe we are literally made to share our lives with one other person. So why is it so hard?
Well, it's counter to the ego. The ego wants to isolate, criticize and dominate. Most relationships don't last very long if two egos are running the show. So swallow your pride and give in to love. Then make it last by following these four steps.
1. Ebb and flow
A few years with the love of your life and you may find yourself in a lull of passion, connection and even basic respect for your partner. This is just as temporary as the high you had when you first met. And it will pass. Most relationships follow a "darkest before the dawn" kind of pattern. Things must become painful for both people to grow through their intimacy fears and reach out to their partner.
A romantic life-commitment partnership is like two spinning orbs of lights rebounding off each other. Each time they connect, they shine brighter as one. But the cost to make that connection is to face and walk through fear. Your only choice is where you are going to reach for connection. By reaching in to the relationship, you affirm the relationship. By reaching out of the relationship (isolating, obsessing on hobbies, over-working, looking for sexual gratification from others) you are denying your relationship. The relationship is still there - you just have to turn toward it. This is the ebb and flow of human intimacy.
The ability to stick around as your partner turns away from the relationship is the essence of longevity. Because just as you will have to exercise loving patience for your partner, they will exercise loving patience for you. No couple that has been together for a long amount of time says that every day was paradise. But what they do say is that when times weren't good, they turned to each other to get through.
2. Communicate!
Love means never saying, "You always___." Love allows both people to have a different reaction to each other and the world. Love always gives someone another chance to connect. So before you go to, "I would communicate but my partner always ignores me/argues/leaves the room/doesn't understand, etc." you must try again. An intimate connection to another person is a deeply sacred calling.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking it's up to your partner to communicate with you. Most relationships have one person who naturally communicates better than the other. So if you feel like you always go first, good! Go first. Even if you are not the "talkative one," if you are ignoring a call to speak, you are cosigning for communication breakdown. Seek out couple's counseling if you don't feel emotionally safe talking out some issues. There's a sense of "leveling the field" when you can talk in front of an impartial third party.
3. Nurture sex
Then there is a pure language of love, which does not have words. This is the sexual connection you feel for your partner. Sexual intercourse doesn't have to be the goal, but touching and hugging, complimenting and overall physical contact needs to be the ongoing communication that comforts both parties through the verbal communication. So sometimes, even if you are mid-process of locking horns, quiet yourself and reach out to touch and comfort your partner. And if this does lead to great lovemaking - that's one more perk to longevity.
4. Reverence
Most of us can recall our resentments very quickly and relay details as though it were yesterday. But when it comes to gratitude, we have one-day amnesia. The gratitude you felt yesterday is the empty space of today. You must actively list the things you love about your life and your life-partner. It can be as simple as enjoying the smell of your partner on your pillow, the familiarity of your shared home, the memories of happy times together. A long-term relationship is like our health - we take it for granted until it deteriorates. And if you really want to feel the divine connection, read your list to your partner. A relationship is about sharing, so share it.
The value of your relationship is only determined by the way you value it. So if you feel like you are drifting away, put your connection to your partner before everything else. The relationship can only benefit from your renewed commitment to it. So start with you. Love has a way of spreading. So if you want more, give more. Chances are, you'll discover that the love you are looking for is already there.
by Moira McMahon
It seems like everyone is breaking up! Move-outs, divorces, bust-ups are everywhere. But if you look past the people throwing plates across the kitchen, perhaps right next door - there are plenty of couples who are staying together for as long as they both shall live.
The thing is, longevity has a lot going for it. First, it grounds you in a world full of change. This leads to greater productivity and better overall happiness. Again and again, studies show that being in a long-term stable relationship brings joy and contentment. Many believe we are literally made to share our lives with one other person. So why is it so hard?
Well, it's counter to the ego. The ego wants to isolate, criticize and dominate. Most relationships don't last very long if two egos are running the show. So swallow your pride and give in to love. Then make it last by following these four steps.
1. Ebb and flow
A few years with the love of your life and you may find yourself in a lull of passion, connection and even basic respect for your partner. This is just as temporary as the high you had when you first met. And it will pass. Most relationships follow a "darkest before the dawn" kind of pattern. Things must become painful for both people to grow through their intimacy fears and reach out to their partner.
A romantic life-commitment partnership is like two spinning orbs of lights rebounding off each other. Each time they connect, they shine brighter as one. But the cost to make that connection is to face and walk through fear. Your only choice is where you are going to reach for connection. By reaching in to the relationship, you affirm the relationship. By reaching out of the relationship (isolating, obsessing on hobbies, over-working, looking for sexual gratification from others) you are denying your relationship. The relationship is still there - you just have to turn toward it. This is the ebb and flow of human intimacy.
The ability to stick around as your partner turns away from the relationship is the essence of longevity. Because just as you will have to exercise loving patience for your partner, they will exercise loving patience for you. No couple that has been together for a long amount of time says that every day was paradise. But what they do say is that when times weren't good, they turned to each other to get through.
2. Communicate!
Love means never saying, "You always___." Love allows both people to have a different reaction to each other and the world. Love always gives someone another chance to connect. So before you go to, "I would communicate but my partner always ignores me/argues/leaves the room/doesn't understand, etc." you must try again. An intimate connection to another person is a deeply sacred calling.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking it's up to your partner to communicate with you. Most relationships have one person who naturally communicates better than the other. So if you feel like you always go first, good! Go first. Even if you are not the "talkative one," if you are ignoring a call to speak, you are cosigning for communication breakdown. Seek out couple's counseling if you don't feel emotionally safe talking out some issues. There's a sense of "leveling the field" when you can talk in front of an impartial third party.
3. Nurture sex
Then there is a pure language of love, which does not have words. This is the sexual connection you feel for your partner. Sexual intercourse doesn't have to be the goal, but touching and hugging, complimenting and overall physical contact needs to be the ongoing communication that comforts both parties through the verbal communication. So sometimes, even if you are mid-process of locking horns, quiet yourself and reach out to touch and comfort your partner. And if this does lead to great lovemaking - that's one more perk to longevity.
4. Reverence
Most of us can recall our resentments very quickly and relay details as though it were yesterday. But when it comes to gratitude, we have one-day amnesia. The gratitude you felt yesterday is the empty space of today. You must actively list the things you love about your life and your life-partner. It can be as simple as enjoying the smell of your partner on your pillow, the familiarity of your shared home, the memories of happy times together. A long-term relationship is like our health - we take it for granted until it deteriorates. And if you really want to feel the divine connection, read your list to your partner. A relationship is about sharing, so share it.
The value of your relationship is only determined by the way you value it. So if you feel like you are drifting away, put your connection to your partner before everything else. The relationship can only benefit from your renewed commitment to it. So start with you. Love has a way of spreading. So if you want more, give more. Chances are, you'll discover that the love you are looking for is already there.
Friday, May 8, 2009
SOUL MATES
When you meet your soul mate,
this person will have an instantaneous effect on you.
A soul mate is someone who makes your knees go weak
and takes your breath away.
With but a single glance they lessen your burden,
and but a smile, touch your heart.
You will feel a sense of total connection with this person.
They will touch you so deeply on so many levels
that you will want to share you innermost secrets.
For the first time in your life
someone will make you feel almost like a god.
Once you have met your soul mate, for better or sometimes worse,
your life will never be the same...
One of the things which makes this encounter so unique
is the sense of a profound spiritual experience.
You both feel like this is meant to be
and that you've been together before in a past incarnation.
When you meet your soul mate something happens —
the deep yearning, the compelling energy drawing you
to become physically intimate overwhelms many...
Nothing will have ever felt so right...
There's a sense of safety with this person.
You knowingly let go of your defenses
as a deep empathic bond is formed.
Unlike any other relationships you may have had,
there will be no game playing or hidden agendas, only truth...
There is something about the passion you share with a soul mate
that goes so far beyond just the physical body.
For a moment in time you two are the only
ones who exist in the universe.
Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls
have intertwined themselves becoming one.
Your spiritual energies meld and you feel the flame of creation
move through you like a wave of the ocean on a hot summer's day.
Soon you begin to lose track
of where you begin and your partner ends...
From within the depths of your exquisitely passionate union,
your soul mate will know exactly how and where to touch you.
It will be different, more intense, and more gratifying
than any lover from your past...
And more electrifying than anything you have ever imagined...
They will look into your eyes
and you will feel your soul open wide.
For some people, there is the "rush".
All the love, all the lust,
and all the need will surge forth
from your soul like captives from a cage.
At this moment you will know
what it means to get lost within someone's eyes.
You will experience a realization you have never felt before
and your desire and passion will rise to new levels.
But in the end, as you lay there,
as the warm afterglow begins to fade,
you will realize what just happened was not merely sex.
Sex pales in comparison to what you have just experienced...
To put it simply, your soul mate will be able
to make love to you in ways no one else will ever be able to match...
~~ Unknown~~
(and somewhat embellished by the Goddess, who knows of what she speaks —
your life will never, ever be the same...)
this person will have an instantaneous effect on you.
A soul mate is someone who makes your knees go weak
and takes your breath away.
With but a single glance they lessen your burden,
and but a smile, touch your heart.
You will feel a sense of total connection with this person.
They will touch you so deeply on so many levels
that you will want to share you innermost secrets.
For the first time in your life
someone will make you feel almost like a god.
Once you have met your soul mate, for better or sometimes worse,
your life will never be the same...
One of the things which makes this encounter so unique
is the sense of a profound spiritual experience.
You both feel like this is meant to be
and that you've been together before in a past incarnation.
When you meet your soul mate something happens —
the deep yearning, the compelling energy drawing you
to become physically intimate overwhelms many...
Nothing will have ever felt so right...
There's a sense of safety with this person.
You knowingly let go of your defenses
as a deep empathic bond is formed.
Unlike any other relationships you may have had,
there will be no game playing or hidden agendas, only truth...
There is something about the passion you share with a soul mate
that goes so far beyond just the physical body.
For a moment in time you two are the only
ones who exist in the universe.
Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls
have intertwined themselves becoming one.
Your spiritual energies meld and you feel the flame of creation
move through you like a wave of the ocean on a hot summer's day.
Soon you begin to lose track
of where you begin and your partner ends...
From within the depths of your exquisitely passionate union,
your soul mate will know exactly how and where to touch you.
It will be different, more intense, and more gratifying
than any lover from your past...
And more electrifying than anything you have ever imagined...
They will look into your eyes
and you will feel your soul open wide.
For some people, there is the "rush".
All the love, all the lust,
and all the need will surge forth
from your soul like captives from a cage.
At this moment you will know
what it means to get lost within someone's eyes.
You will experience a realization you have never felt before
and your desire and passion will rise to new levels.
But in the end, as you lay there,
as the warm afterglow begins to fade,
you will realize what just happened was not merely sex.
Sex pales in comparison to what you have just experienced...
To put it simply, your soul mate will be able
to make love to you in ways no one else will ever be able to match...
~~ Unknown~~
(and somewhat embellished by the Goddess, who knows of what she speaks —
your life will never, ever be the same...)
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Someone Who Cares
When someone knows your weakness
But loves you anyway
And they will always be there for you
Each and every day
When someone will stop and listen
When you're feeling low
When someone cares so very much,
So much to let you go
When someone is willing to do without
So your life is complete
And they will give you courage
When you have faced defeat
When someone is this special,
You know they're from above
And there's a place within your heart
Filled with special love
Thank you for everything
I hope these words convey
The love I feel for you
Each and every day.
But loves you anyway
And they will always be there for you
Each and every day
When someone will stop and listen
When you're feeling low
When someone cares so very much,
So much to let you go
When someone is willing to do without
So your life is complete
And they will give you courage
When you have faced defeat
When someone is this special,
You know they're from above
And there's a place within your heart
Filled with special love
Thank you for everything
I hope these words convey
The love I feel for you
Each and every day.
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Friday, May 1, 2009
The Male Midlife Crisis
How to recognize the symptoms of male menopause, the weird behavior, what has happened to the man and how it affects him, what a wife should and should not do to help.
Ladies: has your 35-50 year-old man suddenly begun acting even more weirdly than he usually does? Has he hatched plans for giving up his sales job, taking all your savings and going to South America to find a cure for cancer? Or has he shaved his head, bought a surfboard and acquired an 18-year old girlfriend? Or - nothing that extreme, but it seems like you're always fighting, he's wearing shorts in the winter, he's just not himself. He may even ask for a divorce. Hang on, girls, your beloved may be having a midlife crisis, otherwise known as "male menopause."
If you ask him what's wrong, you will not be enlightened by his replies (if there are any). He might say he doesn't know, or that he's just not satisfied with his life; now that the kids are grown he wants to toss the 6 passenger vehicle or the 9 passenger van and buy a sports car, or any number of other like "explanations." He doesn't know what's wrong, he just feels different, and only some big dramatic change can fix it. And you're supposed to go along with this, indeed you're expected to support his plans however they may disrupt your life.
If he would, or could, tell you what's wrong, you might be able to trace this odd behavior back to a time when he stood in front of a mirror and thought: "I'm 40 (or 45 or 55) and my time is limited. Eventually I'll die, but have I really lived? There's so many things I want to try, to do..." And he decides right there and then that he'll start, right now, he won't let another day slip by without catching up. The next thing you know, he's bought a hairpiece that looks like road kill on him, and signed up at the gym. Make no mistake, this is serious - 80% of suicides are men, and the rate at midlife is three times higher. It's a major turning point in his life, and he will never be the same as he was. He may deeply regret his behavior, especially if it is something that has made you miserable, like infidelity, but he can neither explain or control it.
Go ahead and protest. Tell him what will happen if he follows his dream of ditching home, family and job to drive an RV across the country mowing lawns for a living, how you and the children will suffer. If the crisis is serious enough, and lasts long enough, you may find yourself in divorce court, trying to explain how this man you've known since childhood has suddenly turned into a stranger.
It is important, first, to realize that you have no responsibility here. Whatever you say or do will make no difference - it will end as it will end, with or without you. Yet you need to know what's going on with him; otherwise, you'll be blaming yourself - especially if he blames you. All that will do is make you feel worse than you do now, so don't buy into it. It's not true.
It's natural for you to want to take charge, of course. You were raised to be a caretaker, to take care of others, to smooth things out, to nurture and to be responsible for others. Don't try to diagnose, advise or explain what's going on to him, and don't change yourself in the hope of changing him - that kind of work should be done by a professional.
What's Behind It
Everyone from Venus to Pluto must know by now that men are raised to hide their emotions. They do have emotions, however unlikely it seems, but they're buried way deep down inside the whole concept of what it means to be a "man." Men are supposed to be strong, stoic, always in control of themselves. Women can shout with rage, weep, snarl, laugh hysterically, but men aren't encouraged to act out that way; they must keep their cool so they can resolve the problem without emotions entering into it (of course they do, but not officially). Many men act like they don't trust their emotions, like emotions are somehow dangerous and to be avoided at all costs. It's safer to pack them way down inside where they won't pop up suddenly to cause trouble.
But some emotions, such as the fear of death, will not be put off. When a man who has felt a youthful 25 through his 55th year suddenly realizes that he doesn't have that much time left, the shock can throw him into a deep depression and/or a complete freak out. He doesn't know what he should do, but he knows that something must be done. All around him people are dying in the newspapers, on TV, down the block. He's afraid, and he doesn't know what to do with this strange feeling. He's frustrated, wishing he'd picked another career ("You call this job a career?"), another wife, different children or none. He feels trapped in his narrow life that consists of job, home and family. He wants to break free but can't, because the cure will hurt worse than the disease. He's going to resent his wife because she at least can choose whether to work or stay home and he can't - there's too much responsibility riding on his shoulders, which have turned out to be more fragile than he ever suspected. And this may go on for months or even years.
It seems to be almost a criteria for male midlife crisis that a man wants to be supported through this troubling time, but not by his wife. He may say (most often, to a younger, prettier woman) "My wife doesn't understand me." Indeed, it is too often true that his wife understands him all too well. He may feel that considering his fealty, his labors, all the mundane tasks he's devoted his life to ("I've been taking out the garbage every day for 23 years, that's 8,395 trips to the garbage can!) entitle him now to seek a different life, perhaps with a new job or a new woman. Perhaps he'll settle for just having an affair.
So if you can't help him, what can you do?
How to recognize the symptoms of male menopause, the weird behavior, what has happened to the man and how it affects him, what a wife should and should not do to help.
Ladies: has your 35-50 year-old man suddenly begun acting even more weirdly than he usually does? Has he hatched plans for giving up his sales job, taking all your savings and going to South America to find a cure for cancer? Or has he shaved his head, bought a surfboard and acquired an 18-year old girlfriend? Or - nothing that extreme, but it seems like you're always fighting, he's wearing shorts in the winter, he's just not himself. He may even ask for a divorce. Hang on, girls, your beloved may be having a midlife crisis, otherwise known as "male menopause."
If you ask him what's wrong, you will not be enlightened by his replies (if there are any). He might say he doesn't know, or that he's just not satisfied with his life; now that the kids are grown he wants to toss the 6 passenger vehicle or the 9 passenger van and buy a sports car, or any number of other like "explanations." He doesn't know what's wrong, he just feels different, and only some big dramatic change can fix it. And you're supposed to go along with this, indeed you're expected to support his plans however they may disrupt your life.
If he would, or could, tell you what's wrong, you might be able to trace this odd behavior back to a time when he stood in front of a mirror and thought: "I'm 40 (or 45 or 55) and my time is limited. Eventually I'll die, but have I really lived? There's so many things I want to try, to do..." And he decides right there and then that he'll start, right now, he won't let another day slip by without catching up. The next thing you know, he's bought a hairpiece that looks like road kill on him, and signed up at the gym. Make no mistake, this is serious - 80% of suicides are men, and the rate at midlife is three times higher. It's a major turning point in his life, and he will never be the same as he was. He may deeply regret his behavior, especially if it is something that has made you miserable, like infidelity, but he can neither explain or control it.
Go ahead and protest. Tell him what will happen if he follows his dream of ditching home, family and job to drive an RV across the country mowing lawns for a living, how you and the children will suffer. If the crisis is serious enough, and lasts long enough, you may find yourself in divorce court, trying to explain how this man you've known since childhood has suddenly turned into a stranger.
It is important, first, to realize that you have no responsibility here. Whatever you say or do will make no difference - it will end as it will end, with or without you. Yet you need to know what's going on with him; otherwise, you'll be blaming yourself - especially if he blames you. All that will do is make you feel worse than you do now, so don't buy into it. It's not true.
It's natural for you to want to take charge, of course. You were raised to be a caretaker, to take care of others, to smooth things out, to nurture and to be responsible for others. Don't try to diagnose, advise or explain what's going on to him, and don't change yourself in the hope of changing him - that kind of work should be done by a professional.
What's Behind It
Everyone from Venus to Pluto must know by now that men are raised to hide their emotions. They do have emotions, however unlikely it seems, but they're buried way deep down inside the whole concept of what it means to be a "man." Men are supposed to be strong, stoic, always in control of themselves. Women can shout with rage, weep, snarl, laugh hysterically, but men aren't encouraged to act out that way; they must keep their cool so they can resolve the problem without emotions entering into it (of course they do, but not officially). Many men act like they don't trust their emotions, like emotions are somehow dangerous and to be avoided at all costs. It's safer to pack them way down inside where they won't pop up suddenly to cause trouble.
But some emotions, such as the fear of death, will not be put off. When a man who has felt a youthful 25 through his 55th year suddenly realizes that he doesn't have that much time left, the shock can throw him into a deep depression and/or a complete freak out. He doesn't know what he should do, but he knows that something must be done. All around him people are dying in the newspapers, on TV, down the block. He's afraid, and he doesn't know what to do with this strange feeling. He's frustrated, wishing he'd picked another career ("You call this job a career?"), another wife, different children or none. He feels trapped in his narrow life that consists of job, home and family. He wants to break free but can't, because the cure will hurt worse than the disease. He's going to resent his wife because she at least can choose whether to work or stay home and he can't - there's too much responsibility riding on his shoulders, which have turned out to be more fragile than he ever suspected. And this may go on for months or even years.
It seems to be almost a criteria for male midlife crisis that a man wants to be supported through this troubling time, but not by his wife. He may say (most often, to a younger, prettier woman) "My wife doesn't understand me." Indeed, it is too often true that his wife understands him all too well. He may feel that considering his fealty, his labors, all the mundane tasks he's devoted his life to ("I've been taking out the garbage every day for 23 years, that's 8,395 trips to the garbage can!) entitle him now to seek a different life, perhaps with a new job or a new woman. Perhaps he'll settle for just having an affair.
So if you can't help him, what can you do?
- You can ride it out. It will require every bit of patience you can summon from your depths or beg or borrow from your support group. And you'll need a support group, as large as you can make it. If you can't find a support group for this exact situation, try Al-Anon - it grapples with some of the same problems. Or start a group yourself.
- Give the kind of help that will actually help. When he turns to you for affection make sure if you reject him, it's for a good reason. Remember, if he doesn't get this from you, he may seek it elsewhere.
- Keep in mind: his recovery is up to HIM.
- Try not to depend on him for your own emotional support at this time, as he's not likely to be able to give it. He's in pain, preoccupied with his own emotional health. You developed your support group for this purpose - use it.
- Give him enough space. He needs time and room to think through his problems himself (or with the help of a therapist). If he wants time alone or with his friends, if he's always at the golf course, don't complain, except to your support group.
- Explore your own independence. Find something uplifting to do: volunteer at the senior center, become a big sister. If he won't go to counseling, go yourself, and learn how to be a non-co-dependent. The more alone-time you can give him now, the better.
- Continue to be nice to him, and to all men. You may be tempted to complain about men in general, but we all know generalizations are never true, including this one. Don't use his crisis as an excuse to "male-bash."
- If you love him, let him know. Be as gentle and helpful as you can without taking any responsibility for his problem. Be sure he knows you still want him sexually, that you still value his efforts on the family behalf - praise him every chance you get. Stay positive about the problem and the relationship.
- If he wants to talk about it, listen. This means active listening, paying close attention to what he's saying and checking to make sure you haven't misunderstood: "What I hear you saying is that you want and need a new car, is that right?" Don't give advice or permission, and don't you dare tell anyone else. JUST LISTEN.
- Suggest some alternatives. Instead of hanging out in bars or moving to South America, "How about trying hang gliding? You've always wanted to do that, haven't you?" Or learning to fly, taking up cooking (or even housework, yeah!), or taking a car trip to Florida. A little thought will turn up dozens of these minor changes - some or all may do the trick for him. If he wants you to participate, do so if at all possible (tip: don't suggest anything you won't do yourself).
- Keep the communication going. Some women believe that the way to keep a man from straying is to give him all the sex he wants, but that's not it. The secret is communication. Just like your children, your husband or boyfriend should feel free to approach you with any problem and find you (1) welcoming, (2) listening actively, (3) eschewing advice (though you may make suggestions) and (4) faithful in keeping their secrets. Especially do not repeat his confidences to your girlfriends, your family, his friends or his family.
- If the marriage breaks, and you do find yourself divorced, consider that the crisis may pass, he may realize that he belongs at home, and ask to come back. What will you do then? And if it doesn't happen, what will you do?
- Remember, most men seek help only when their loved ones insist. Intervention may be necessary.
- Also necessary, exercise, a healthy diet, love, the care of the soul. May be necessary, individual and/or group psychotherapy, medications, their own support group, learning to love the person they are.
All right. You know what's happening and what you can do about it. Now get going!
Thursday, April 30, 2009
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Being happy doesn't mean its always perfect, it just means you decided to look beyond all the imperfections.
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